The Power of Play and the Art of Asking Questions

Children learn best through meaningful interaction, and one of the most powerful tools we have is play. When paired with thoughtful, open-ended questions, play becomes more than fun—it becomes a bridge for emotional growth, social learning and stronger relationships.

Here are some ways for you to explore how simple moments of joy and curiosity can shape your child’s development in lasting ways.

The Power of Play

Play isn’t just entertainment—it’s a core strategy for connection, learning and emotional growth. Here’s how:

• Connection & Engagement: Play builds trust and emotional bonds. It shows children they are valued and loved.
• Teaching Social Skills: Through pretend play, games and group activities, children learn sharing, empathy, turn-taking and cooperation.
• Correction & Reconnection: After discipline or conflict, playful interactions can restore warmth and rebuild relationships.
• Joyful Presence: Singing, dancing, swinging and silliness make everyday moments magical and memorable.

Asking Questions to Spark Thinking

Open-ended questions encourage curiosity, autonomy and problem-solving. They also help children feel heard and respected.

Tips for Using Play and Questions Together

• Follow the child’s lead: Let their interests guide the play.
• Use playful tones: Even questions can be asked with a sense of wonder and fun.
• Validate responses: Acknowledge their ideas to build confidence.
• Mix movement and imagination: Physical play combined with storytelling deepens engagement.

Conclusion

Play and purposeful questions aren’t extras—they’re essentials in nurturing confident, connected and curious children. By leaning into playful engagement and asking questions that invite thinking, we strengthen relationships and support children’s natural love of learning. Small moments can make a big impact—especially when we choose to be present, playful and tuned in.

Angela Percival-Porter serves as a Child Development Specialist for the State of Oklahoma and is an adjunct professor, teaching various child development and child care administration courses at both community and national colleges. With 33 years of experience working with families and children, Angela has held roles such as director of an NAEYC-accredited early care and education center and has provided mental health consultation to local childcare centers.