Be SMART: Ask About Unsecured Guns in Other Homes

Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America, a grassroots gun violence prevention organization, has a program called Be SMART, which was created to bring together all adults to reduce the number of unintentional shootings that occur when children get ahold of an unsecured firearm. My last column discussed the second part of the acronym, which stands for “model responsible behavior.”

The next topic we will talk about is the “A” in the Be SMART acronym, Ask about unsecured guns in other homes. There are approximately 4.6 million U.S. children living in a household with at least one loaded, unlocked gun. That’s why you need to ask about firearms in other homes your child visits.

As parents and caretakers, when we think about safety there are several things you need to ask about before allowing your child to go to a friend’s or another person’s home. Things like potential allergens, pets in the home, pools on the property, car seats for rides, who will be home for playdate/teen events, TV and screen time/electronics/video games and alcohol access. In the same vein, you also need to ask about guns. You should ask whether they own guns, and if they do, whether they are responsibly stored.

Asking about guns in the home should be as natural as asking about any other safety issue, but it can seem uncomfortable at first. Don’t be afraid. It’s not any different than asking if they have pets or how much screen time they allow. Try making it part of your general safety conversation. You might also try asking via email or text if you’re uncomfortable at first. Here’s an example text:

Johnny’s Mom: Johnny would like to have Tommy spend the night tomorrow. We can pick him up at 5 and take him to dinner with us if that’s ok.

Me: That would be great! He is super excited! Just a few questions – Tommy is allergic to cats, do you have any? Also, do you own guns? We have no cats and no guns, but we do have a big dog!

Johnny’s Mom: No worries at all…I understand being protective of your kiddos. No cats or guns here!

It may be awkward. It may feel like you’re being nosy or prying when you’re asking. But just realize that it’s not awkward. It’s just another way to keep your kids safe.

About Moms Demand Action: Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America  ( is a grassroots, non-partisan movement of Americans fighting for public safety measures that can protect people from   gun violence and keep our families safe. Moms Demand Action has a chapter in every state and it is part of the nation’s largest gun violence prevention organization, Everytown for Gun Safety, with more than 5 million supporters.  Moms Demand Action works with survivors, mayors, law enforcement officers, faith leaders, educators, gun owners, doctors and communities across the country who know there is more we can do to prevent gun  violence. We do this work because every day 100 Americans die from gun violence and hundreds more are wounded.  

About Christine: Christine Jackson is the Chapter Leader for the Oklahoma Chapter of Moms Demand Action. She and her husband Neal are parents to two young sons. She was inspired to do the work of helping to end gun violence when she was seven months pregnant with her first son and the tragedy at Sandy Hook happened. She knew then that Mothers like her needed to get involved. She hopes that we will someday get to a place in this country where this work is no longer needed, but will keep going as long as it is.

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