Is Your Special Ed Program Meeting Your Child’s Needs?

When my child was in early elementary school and needed some extra help, we had a meeting about special education services. I remember sitting alone on one side of a big wooden table. On the other side were teachers, administrators and specialists. As the meeting began, I heard the team talk about my child’s educational needs, but something was missing. It was as if they were talking about a nameless person. They didn’t see the child that I saw at home.

When your child requires special education services, it can be challenging to navigate their needs, the system and your feelings. You know that ensuring that your child’s special education program is meeting their needs is crucial for their academic and personal development. Yet, knowing how to make that happen can feel impossible.

Here are some steps you can take to make sure your child is receiving the appropriate support:

Be Informed

Educators have experience with special education and all that goes with that. When they talk about your child’s needs, it can feel like they speak a different language. Be intentional about learning and understanding the terms and procedures. Familiarize yourself with your child’s Individualized Education Program (IEP) or 504 Plan. Understand the goals, accommodations and services outlined in the plan.

Also, familiarize yourself with federal and state laws regarding special education. Understand your child’s rights and entitlements. For parents’ rights in Oklahoma, go to sde.ok.gov and search for Parents Rights in Special Education: Notice of Procedural Safeguards. IEPs must also include a plan for transition to post-secondary goals.

Foster Open Communication with Teachers and Specialists

The relationship you have with your child’s teachers and specialists makes a big difference in their special education program. Regularly communicate with teachers, therapists and other specialists who work with your child. Establishing a strong relationship with them can help address any concerns or issues promptly.

It is imperative to attend parent-teacher conferences and IEP meetings. Be prepared to discuss your child’s progress and ask questions about their educational plan. It can also be helpful to bring another trusted person to these meetings, so you don’t miss anything important.

Monitor Progress

Keep track of your child’s academic and behavioral progress. While it is tempting to only focus on their grades, for example, consider all aspects of their learning and behavior. If possible, request regular updates from teachers or therapists on how your child is doing. This will help you and the education team address issues that arise early to keep things on track.

Observe Classroom Environment

Sometimes a child acts differently in school than they do at home. Other times, it’s hard to gauge what is going on in the classroom through your child’s descriptions. When you make time to observe the classroom environment, you glean more information that helps make sure your child’s program is meeting their needs. Visit your child’s classroom to see how they interact with peers, the teacher and their learning environment. This can provide valuable insights into their daily experiences.

Advocate for Your Child

You are your child’s number one advocate. If you have concerns or feel that their needs aren’t being met, voice them to the school’s special education team. Be assertive, but also open to collaboration. Remember, you are all working together to provide the best education for your child.

Request Additional Evaluations if Necessary

You have the right to request evaluations. If you suspect that your child’s needs have changed, or if you feel that the current plan isn’t effective, request additional assessments or evaluations to reevaluate their needs.

Stay Involved in the IEP Process

Actively participate in the development, review and revision of your child’s IEP. This can be a lot of work, but your input is invaluable in tailoring the plan to meet their specific needs. It is also important to make sure the school is following the IEP or 504 plan. These are legal documents. If they are not followed, you may need to seek outside help.

Seek Outside Resources and Support

You cannot do all of this alone. Connect with local and online support groups, advocacy organizations and parent networks such as The Arc of Oklahoma (thearcok.org) and the Oklahoma Family Network (oklahomafamilynetwork.org). They can provide valuable advice, resources and emotional support. Some lawyers specialize in special education and can help if your school is not meeting your child’s needs or if they are not following the IEP.

Consider a Second Opinion

If you’re concerned about your child’s progress, consider seeking a second opinion from an independent professional, such as a developmental pediatrician, psychologist or educational consultant. This can offer a helpful perspective. These professionals can also attend meetings with you.

Document Everything

Keep a record of all communication with the school, including emails, letters and notes from meetings. This documentation can be valuable if you need to escalate any concerns. Designate a filing system or binder for all papers that come in, create a folder for emails, and keep a document or notebook for any conversations you have.

Stay Persistent and Patient

Advocating for your child’s needs can be long and challenging. Stay persistent, but also be patient with the system and the individuals involved. It is helpful to remind everyone that you are all working together to help the child.

Remember, you are your child’s best advocate. By staying informed, involved and proactive, you can help ensure that your child’s special education program is tailored to meet their unique needs and set them up for success.