Brittany Stokes: Let’s Hear it for the Girls

Mother of four Brittany Stokes is the co-founder of Project Orphans and Tulsa Girls’ Home (TGH). What started as a desire to help young people abroad, Project Orphans has grown into a pursuit to assist local children through the Tulsa Girls’ Home. Surprisingly, this remarkable program that helps girls aging out of foster care didn’t exist prior to Stokes’ efforts. Both impactful projects are near and dear to her heart as they serve as a resource that changes the narrative for these young kids. Now, locally, young women who are aging out of foster care have access to resources and a beautiful, safe place to live. This interview shares more about Brittany Stokes’ background and journey in starting Tulsa Girls’ Home.

TK: As the founder of Project Orphans and Tulsa Girls’ Home, what inspired you to create these organizations?

Brittany: Almost 12 years ago, while I was deeply entrenched in the fast-paced world of corporate America, I knew there was something more I was meant to do—something that would leave a lasting impact. Then, one day, while on the phone with my best friend, Christina Yarid, the idea of the orphan, the vulnerable child without a voice, truly gripped my heart. It was like a lightning bolt of clarity struck me, and in that moment, I realized my purpose—even though I had no idea how I would live out that purpose. I’ve always believed that we are called to tackle the things in life that move us and stir our souls, and this was it for me. That phone call sparked a journey that has now spanned 13 years, evolving into the creation of Project Orphans and Tulsa Girls’ Home.

TK: Can you share a little more about the origin of these organizations and who they serve?

Brittany: These organizations didn’t just spring up overnight—they took shape slowly, through perseverance, passion and an unwavering belief that every child deserves love, support and a chance to thrive. Today, when I look at how far we’ve come, I’m filled with awe and gratitude. What started as a seed of an idea has blossomed into something much bigger than I ever imagined, impacting lives in ways I only dreamed of. It’s a reminder that when you follow your heart and take action on what truly moves you, the possibilities are limitless.

Project Orphans provides holistic care for vulnerable children in Uganda, Africa. Project Orphans’ focus is education, healthcare and breaking the cycle of poverty. Tulsa Girls’ Home is a local arm of Project Orphans, which serves girls in foster care and those aging out of care—offering a safe, therapeutic home where they can heal, grow and prepare for independent living. Both programs are driven by the belief that every child deserves love, support and a bright future!

TK: What was your intention/hope in starting TGH?

Brittany: Oklahoma needed to take a different approach when it came to the foster care system, especially for teen girls. These young women are true survivors, navigating unimaginable challenges, and they desperately needed a community that would rally around them. Unfortunately, we’ve been behind in advocacy for teen girls in foster care—leaving too many to fall through the cracks. My hope with Tulsa Girls’ Home was to break that vicious cycle, to provide not just a safe place but a supportive, loving environment that fosters a new pathway for these girls. TGH exists to give them the tools, the community, and the confidence they need to rise above their circumstances and create better futures.

TK: What do you want people to know about the young women you support at TGH?

Brittany: I want people to understand that the young women supported at Tulsa Girls’ Home are just like our own daughters and children. They have the same dreams and insecurities as any other young person, yet they face the challenge of navigating life without the guidance they need. It’s crucial for us as a community to open our hearts and challenge our own perceptions. These girls are incredibly resilient, and with the right support and self-determination, they have the power to achieve anything they set their minds to. They deserve our compassion, understanding and unwavering belief in their potential.

TK: What advice would you give to someone thinking about fostering a child?

Brittany: From my personal experience, fostering and caring for children, despite its challenges, has profoundly impacted my heart and my family’s lives. It’s important to recognize what you’re capable of and set clear boundaries to maintain balance and well-being. Fostering requires immense compassion, patience and resilience, but it also brings deep rewards. My family and I have seen firsthand how offering love, support and a family can transform lives and bring immense joy.

If you’re considering fostering, commit wholeheartedly. Understand that while it can be demanding, the difference you make in a child’s life—and the growth it brings to your own family—is invaluable.

Tulsa Girls’ Home. Photo by Ashley McKinney

TK: What have you learned over the past three years that will help you move this organization forward?

Brittany: Over the past three years, as TGH has expanded and found its new home in Jenks, I’ve witnessed the profound impact of community support. Jenks has embraced us with open arms, offering a welcoming environment that has been crucial to our growth. I’ve also learned that there are many myths about kids in foster care that I hadn’t fully realized before. Each day, we strive to debunk these myths and redefine therapeutic care in Oklahoma.

This journey, while often challenging, is deeply meaningful. It’s not just about the progress we make, but also about how it shapes us. Our mission is tough, but the rewards—seeing these young women thrive and grow—make every step worth it. This process molds us into better advocates and more compassionate individuals, and it reaffirms our commitment to making a real difference.

TK: You’ve just earned your master’s degree in counseling. Tell us a little about why that was important to you.

Brittany: Earning my master’s degree in counseling was a deeply personal goal and a significant achievement for me. Returning to school later in life, I approached it semester by semester, balancing it with my other responsibilities (mom, career, etc.). It wasn’t just about enhancing the organization; it was a journey of personal growth and fulfillment. It’s not only helped me better serve our mission but also affirmed my belief in the power of education and perseverance.

TK: As a mom, can you share some examples of how you’ve been intentional about instilling empathy in your kids?

Brittany: As a mother of four, I believe it is a priority to instill empathy in my children by modeling it in our daily lives. I want them to see my life as an example of openness and compassion. We often have open discussions about how others might feel and encourage them to think from different perspectives. My husband and I really believe that our kids should not ignore those in need, and I make sure my kids understand the importance of responding with kindness. For example, last week one of my kids saw someone outside and asked if we could get them a McDonald’s Happy Meal— this is an example of a win in my book when my children recognize these needs of others and act on them.

TK: How can people get involved in TGH?

Brittany: We welcome volunteers who can contribute their time and skills to support our programs and activities. Donations are always appreciated, whether they are financial contributions or in-kind items that can benefit our girls. To get involved, individuals can reach out directly to us through our website or contact us for more information on how to contribute.

TK: What are TGH’s current needs?

Brittany: Tulsa Girls’ Home has several different needs, and they often change throughout the year. Right now, we are actively seeking support for our final townhome construction, which will provide essential housing for girls aging out of foster care. We are so grateful for the Hern Family Foundation who has come alongside our mission to help us during the final phase of this capital campaign. We also have a need for funding scholarships for camp, swim lessons, yoga, art therapy and other social outings. Additionally, we are always in need of volunteers and donations to support our day-to-day operations and special programs. Your support in any of these areas would be greatly appreciated!

Myths of Foster Care

Brittany Stokes described some common misperceptions about foster care:

1. Myth: Girls in foster care are “troubled” or “bad” kids.

Reality: This stereotype oversimplifies the complex situations these girls have experienced. Many girls in foster care come from environments of abuse, neglect or trauma. Their behavior may be a response to these adverse experiences rather than an indication of who they are as individuals. Labeling them as “troubled” dehumanizes their resilience and strength, further isolating them from the support and care they need. These girls are just as capable of healing, thriving and succeeding as any other child when given proper guidance, love and stability.

2. Myth: Foster kids are damaged beyond repair.

Reality: This myth perpetuates the idea that girls in foster care are beyond help, which can discourage potential foster parents, mentors and supporters from getting involved. With the right interventions—such as counseling, supportive relationships and consistent care—these girls can overcome their past challenges and lead successful, fulfilling lives.

3. Myth: Girls in foster care don’t want to succeed or are unmotivated.

Reality: Many girls in foster care face significant barriers to success, such as frequent school changes, lack of stability and trauma. However, this does not mean they lack the motivation to succeed. The real issue lies in a lack of resources and support systems. When these girls are provided with the right tools—mentorship, stable environments, educational support—they often excel and prove just how determined and capable they are!

To learn more about the Tulsa Girls Home, visit them online at TulsaGirlsHome.org; Instagram: @tulsagirlshomeok; Facebook: Tulsa Girls Home

To listen to the full interview, check out the Sharing Passion and Purpose Podcast online: SharingPassionandPurpose.com and Facebook/Instagram: @sharingpassionandpurpose

Nancy A. Moore is a Public Relations Coordinator at Montreau, Adjunct Professor at Tulsa Community College, and has been writing for TulsaKids for almost 20 years.