Baby Ambivalence?I finished reading Rebecca Walker’s Baby Love: Choosing Motherhood After a Lifetime of Ambivalence this weekend. I picked the book up for one dollar off an outdoor sales rack at a big box bookstore. It was the title of course that caught my attention and sent thoughts and questions racing around my head about who this Rebecca Walker woman was and how on earth she could use the words “baby,” “motherhood,” and “ambivalence” in one place. And a very public place, at that!
So though I was a bit nervous that the price and quality of the book would be directly correlated, out of all the books for pleasure I bought that day, this one-- basically on not being sure one is ready, willing, and able to have a baby—was the one I began (and finished) first.
I am not going to go into depth here about who Rebecca Walker is – suffice it to say that she is a well-known woman with well-known lineage. Yet, I will say that her writing truly resonated with me at several points.
No, I’m not at all ambivalent about babies, or having had a baby. Babies rock, and my son rocks the most, in my humble opinion. But I cannot deny that I picked up this book for a reason. And I’m pretty sure the reason is that I’m so very much on the fence about whether or not to have a second child.
Certainly, the decision to have a first child is very different from deciding on having a second child. For one, with the second child, you have a better idea of what you’re getting into… and what you’re giving up. Thus the second birth is arguably a much more difficult decision for a family to agree upon. Especially a family that has gotten use to finally sleeping eight hours a night again.
Anyhow, to make a long story short, I highly recommend the book.