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July 25, 2014

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Teachers Packin' Heat. Seriously?

Two Oklahoma State Legislators want to introduce a bill that would allow teachers and other public school personnel to have guns in their classrooms. Is this really Oklahoma's answer to the tragedy in Newtown? Is this our State's call to action? Surely we can do better for our children. Will having more easily accessible guns prevent another mass shooting by a mentally ill person? Don't we, as parents, make sure that our children aren't going over to play at a house with accessible guns? I know I wouldn't allow my children to go to a friend's house if that house had unsecured guns. And, with 40 percent of American households having guns, it's a good idea to ask. Why in the world would we want our children to go to school every day knowing that there...

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Talking to Your Kids

I'm sure you've seen and heard about many ways to talk to your children about the tragedy in Newtown. Here is a list of tips from Save the Children, www.savechildren.org.   Save the Children Opens Safe Space for Newtown Children, Offers 10 Tips to Help All Children Cope WESTPORT, Conn. (Dec. 15, 2012) — Save the Children has opened a Child Friendly Space in a Newtown, Conn. middle school to give local children a safe place to play and express themselves while their parents seek counseling and support in connection to the horrific tragedy in their community. Save the Children is extremely saddened by the events in Newtown, only 20 miles from its Westport, Conn. headquarters, and is ready to help local authorities and partners as needed.  For...

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I wish that this day were a nightmare, and I would wake up. Or that we could just start the day over with no guns. Please.

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Is Your College Student Taking Drugs?

When my son was a freshman in college (years ago -- he's 25 now), he called me during finals week at about this time of year. He was going to a selective, competitive school and he told me that he had taken some ADHD medication to study for an exam. He said that the kids were passing it out to everyone in the dorm where he was studying. Hmmm. That's one of those times as a parent that you take a deep breath. Or maybe it's just that it takes your breath away how stupid smart young people can be. I don't know. Either way, I was speechless. As I tried to think of what to say and how to say it, my son said something like, "It was great. I could really focus and stay up all night and read everything I needed..." So, I wondered why he had shared this with...

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What Would You Do?

If you could know in advance that your infant was going to be afflicted with a serious disease such as diabetes, breast cancer, alzheimer's or ALS later in life, would you want to know? In the past two days, I've seen and heard two different programs on genetics and what doctors can tell us about our health. Right now, infants are screened at birth for harmful or even potentially fatal disorders that can be cured or improved with early diagnosis (remember that PKU test?) Now most states screen for over 30 disorders, all with a single drop of blood. But would you want an entire genetic make-up on your infant? One program that I watched on television interviewed adults with diseases, or who had the potential to develop life-threatening diseases. All of the adults in the...

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The "Crews Missile": Dad's Email to His Adult Children

Most of us at some point wonder what monstrous harm we've done to our children. We ruminate over the mistakes we've made as parents. Did we let our son cry too long? Did we rescue too often? Is my daughter going to be damaged for life because I took her lunch to her in 3rd grade when she forgot it? Now she'll never learn to accept consequences and learn from her mistakes! Whoa. My shoulders are already starting to sag from the weight of all that parental guilt. In comes a British father, Nick Crews, whose email to his three adult children has evidently catapulted him into something of a cult hero. It was written in Feb., but his daughter released it recently. If you haven't read his email, here it is: “Dear All Three,”  “With last...

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The First Thanksgiving (without kids)

So, for the first time ever, my husband and I will be kid-less for Thanksgiving. It feels kind of strange. And, if I weren't so busy with my December deadline, I'd have time to feel really sad about it. Connor only has one day (Thanksgiving) off work, so he'll be in Dallas. Anna can't afford to come home, so she'll be having what she calls a "friendsgiving" with her pals in Austin, and Mary is going to be at her boyfriend's house. So we'll be celebrating with my mom and my sister, which isn't such a bad deal considering my mom is a fabulous cook -- and Thanksgiving is all about food. I can't let this go, however, without a little whining. I remember walking over to the Lights On at Utica Square on Thanksgiving evening the day after I...

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Tulsa Voted #1 Unhealthiest City! Wha...?

SELF Magazine (Dec. 2012) has ranked Tulsa, OK as the #1 UNHEALTHIEST overall city for women. I was going to write about today being National Clean Your Refrigerator Day, but now I'll I'm going to say about that is -- better clean the fattening, processed, nasty stuff out of your refrigerator and get healthy! Our city was described this way: "Tulsa, OK. Poor habits, high disease risk and life expectancy is falling." Yes, you read that right -- life expectancy in Tulsa for women is falling (their emphasis). The other cities were, in order, Jackson, MS; Detroit, MI; Louisville, KY; St. Louis, MO; Little Rock, AR; Memphis, TN; Birmingham, AL; Las Vegas, NV; and Oklahoma City, OK. The healthiest city is San Jose, CA. Being in a community of runners and people who...

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My Many Mistakes

I make thousands of mistakes. Not just in my daily life -- like the time I put a nail through my hand or like last night when I was washing a pan and the milk I was heating for hot chocolate boiled over onto the range that I had just cleaned. Multi-tasking, being preoccupied and constantly being in a hurry (not a good combination) are probably at the root of my "accidents." I've run into a tree branch and a sign while running (still have the scar above my eye from that tree), and I've fallen down numerous times while running at Turkey Mountain. And I'm not going to even get in to the emotional damage I've probably done to my perfect children as a result of bad parenting. And then there are the hundreds of thousands of editing mistakes I've made in...

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Here's What's Really Scary

There are a couple of things that have been weighing on my mind. Since I don't have to rush around to find last minute Halloween costumes for my kids, I have more time to worry about things like the public school grades that were recently released by the Oklahoma State Department of Education. Our State Superintendent of Schools Janet Barresi deserves an "F" on this one. https://sdeweb01.sde.ok.gov/Transparency/ReportCards/ I've been watching this unfold, as I'm sure many of you have. First, the State Board of Education decided not to release the grades because over 300 school superintendents around the state, including Dr. Ballard in Tulsa, objected to the calculation method. As Dr. Ballard said in a letter to parents, "It is flawed, and I...

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Betty Casey started editing TulsaKids when her youngest child was 3 years old. That daughter is now a freshman in college. Her son is 24 and her middle daughter is 21. TulsaKids and her children literally grew up together (and she lived to tell about it)! Betty's blog ranges from commenting on current parenting issues and upcoming articles to personal reflections about being the mom of three children, who are now wonderful young adults.

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