Mar 6, 201212:14 PMBaby Love
Feeling the Love
You know, there are times when you feel like the whole world is against you; now is not that time for me. I was just reading my editor Betty's newest blog post and it made me feel good. It also reminded me of a good interaction I had with a mom this past weekend....
You may have read that one of my son and I's special places is the kid's area in Barnes & Noble. He loves the train set, and I love reading while he plays with the train set. However, lately it hasn't been such a special place. This whole sharing thing has become a struggle for us. As soon as a possible "enemy" shows up to the set, he begins hoarding as many trains as he can hold. Then, when his arms can't hold anymore, he has a nervous breakdown as they fall to the floor. If you've recently been in Barnes & Noble and seen a pregnant lady scrambling out the door while holding a screaming 2-year-old than you should have said hi, because it was me.
So, Saturday morning (before I hit up the JBF sale) we went to Barnes & Noble with the highest of hopes. For a while it went on smoothly, of course the key to that is we were the only ones there. Then, it started getting busy and a family of six shows. A lovely family of six. When I say lovely, I mean they look like they just stepped out of a J.Crew catalog. So, they already have that going against them because I'm all in some baggy maternity clothes and feeling quite unattractive.
The youngest of the lovely family comes over to the train set. He's about 3-years-old and innocently starts playing. I can see that my son is starting to get that panicked look on his face and I know it's about to go down.
So, I start talking to him about "sharing with our new friend" and "he just wants to play with you." All of which is not getting the desired response.
It starts escalating when the lovely mother comes around the corner and asks her son how it's going. I explain that we're having a hard time with sharing and she looks at me and says "Is he 2?"
"Yes" I reply.
"Well, honey, you can try all you want, but at 2-years-old it's a losing battle. I mean, you're doing a great job and it's a valiant effort, but I've been through it three times, once with twins, and it's just a tough concept for them to understand."
I wanted to hug her.
We ended up leaving because my son couldn't get it together (we're working on it), but she made me feel really good and I appreciated it very much.