Aug 25, 201110:14 AMBaby Love

Supermoms at risk for depression? DUH!

Aug 25, 2011 - 10:14 AM

So I guess I'm going to chime in here with a million other mom bloggers today about the Today Show's segment about "Supermoms." My take on it is, is this really news? I mean, we all know the story. Guilt for working, guilt for not working, etc. etc. I still wouldn't take back having the choice.

The only part about the story that was interesting to me is that working moms who don't expect their working husbands to do as much housework as they do were less likely to be depressed. Ha! So they're saying that as long as you don't set your expectations too high for your husband, than you're less likely to be disappointed.

Although this may be true, isn't this letting the husbands off a little easy? I mean, so women are expected to bring home the bacon, cook it, feed it to their husband and children, then clean up the mess.  I call BS.

I know many working dads that pull their weight with the housework and taxiing kids around. Why? To give them credit, they're good guys. But I'd have to say the main reason is because their wives expect it from them.  They expect it from them in the same way that their husbands expect them to bring home a pay check. It's fair and it's modern.

Saying that women should readjust their expectations to accept anything less is what is depressing.

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Aug 25, 2011 11:34 am
 Posted by  TaloaAlexander

I totally agree. I work well over 45 hours a week and am I member of many civic groups and the board of our local community theatre. I fully expect my husband to pull his own weight around the house. I refuse to spend every waking moment of my day working, whether it be at the office or at home. My husband is wonderful and helps tremendously. I like to believe that he does this because he wants to help out, but even if he does it just because he fears the consequences of not doing it I don't care. Bottom line, things get done and really that's all that matters. I also feel like we are setting a good example for our son and daughter, because let's face it, the way things are going in most cases both the mom and the dad HAVE to work to survive. My daughter will be raised to expect her future husband to pitch in, and my son will want to help his future wife. I know everyone is different, but this works for us. Besides, should you really ever lower you expectations?

Aug 25, 2011 12:31 pm
 Posted by  ARodgers

Lowering your expectations may be a way to self-preserve, but it's not going to change anything. You can't let these dads think that it's ok because it's not. Also, it's offensive to the dads that do consider their marriage a true partnership.

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The first years of motherhood are the most educational years of your life.  Abby Rodgers shares the highs, the lows, the love and complete shock of being a new mom.  She'll write what she has learned and also seek advice from you about things she has yet to figure out.  Abby keeps it real with a little humor and a lot of love. 

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