Aug 2, 201111:14 AMBaby Love
Battle Hymn of the Happy Mother
Have any of you seen the articles published finding that parents are more depressed than their childless friends? A friend e-mailed it to me some time ago and I've been keeping it starred in my in-box for a while.
While reading it, I couldn't help but start really looking deep into myself asking...am I truly happy?
The answer is that I'm happier than I've ever been in my adult life.
Everyone's circumstances are different. I was 100% ready when I got pregnant. I'll never have to look back and think "I should have had more fun" because I most definitely had my fair share.
I'm not saying that to brag or make my life seem wonderful and perfect because it's most definitely not. I have good days, bad days, mediocre days. My husband and I argue, mostly about money and scheduling. I want a bigger house and new clothes. I want to travel more and see old friends. But despite all this I am absolutely happy.
I feel like these articles don't tell the whole truth and make mothers think that they shouldn't be happy.
My argument is that there is a difference in measurements of happiness between people who do have children and people that don't.
There is nothing---nothing better than walking into my son's room to find him "reading" a book....his sweet voice going up and down and pointing at the pictures just the way I do. Or when I wake up to find him snuggled up next to his dad. Or when he gets into his wagon all by himself and looks at me with a look of proud accomplishment.
No book, or happy hour or concert ever made me feel as good as when my child started blowing me kisses.
I am just so tired of these studies sensationalizing parents unhappiness. Having children doesn't ruin your life or your marriage. In fact, in many cases, it makes them much more enjoyable and complete.